Wisdom and Wealth (Proverbs 28:6,8,11,19-22; 30:7-9)

What is better, to be rich or poor? The answer is not straightforward and Proverbs taken as a whole gives a broad and nuanced teaching on how to be wise about wealth.

A version of the sermon preached on the same day at St. Luke’s, Ramsgate.

What is better Riches or Poverty?

What is better to be rich or poor? How would you answer that question?

Perhaps it is better to be poor? In his book Affluenza, Oliver James describes two people he met in New York:

Sam is a thirty-five year-old New York stockbroker who earns £20 million a year, will inherit a billion when his dad dies. He lives alone in a five-storey apartment in central Manhattan. He used to be addicted to Heroin, now it is sex with teenagers. He is paranoid, pessimistic, lonely and not a very nice person.

By contrast, Chet, the Nigerian-born immigrant taxi driver earns a thousand times less, is happily married, not at all paranoid, despite being physically attacked by his passengers, full of optimism and a very decent human being.

If you had to hang out with one of these two you would choose Chet every time!

Or is it better to be rich? Bill Gates the founder of Microsoft is one of the riches people in the world. Yet, he has invested his wealth into the Gates Foundation which is  the second largest charitable foundation in the world. It aims to enhance healthcare, reduce extreme poverty across the world and to expand educational opportunities. No doubt Bill Gates riches are making a hugely positive difference to the world. He could do none of this if he was poor.

And isn’t being poor bad for you? We may be concerned about the rising cost of living in this crisis, but in parts of East Africa, it is becoming deadly for millions. Four successive seasons of failed rains have left more than 18 million people desperately short of food in East Africa. Local conflict, combined with skyrocketing food prices caused by the invasion of Ukraine, is making the situation even worse. Lives are at risk. Children are especially vulnerable. The time to act is now.

‘All we know is hunger,’ Akina* aged 12 from Uganda, tells us. ‘When we sleep our stomachs are growling because we have not eaten for days.’

What is better to be rich or poor? These modern examples show us if nothing else, that the answer to this question is not straightforward.

Proverbs is a book that is full of short pithy sayings that each teach invaluable truths. Yet, no one Proverb by itself is meant to give us the whole picture. Our wisdom needs to be shaped by them all.

Proverbs has many saying about wealth and riches. Individual Proverbs may by themselves strike us as being too simplistic. Our wisdom to do with riches and poverty needs to take into account different aspects of the truths expressed in the Proverbs overall.

Is it better to be rich or poor? Actually Proverbs refuses to give us a straightforward answer.

Wealth is Good:

First of all many of the Proverbs suggest that riches can be a good thing and are something that come to us when we live wise lives.

Riches are better:

Clearly, being rich has its advantages:

“The wealth of the rich is their fortified city,

but poverty is the ruin of the poor.” (10:15)

Proverbs is aware that poverty can be our ruin. The cost of living crisis is forcing many people today into poverty and the effects are difficult. Locally, some are struggling to feed their families properly. Many can’t afford a mortgage and so being forced to rent are at the mercy of the landlords. Some being forced to move far away because their landlords are selling up and there is no affordable accommodation to rent locally.

Being rich however, can mean owning your own house having a decent pension and being able to afford private healthcare. It gives a certain amount of security in this life.

In all these senses you are better off being rich than poor!

Riches come with hard work:

Riches can be good and Proverbs gives us advice about how to avoid being poor and ensure you are rich. Many Proverbs like the one in verse 19 remind us of the importance of hard work as necessary to gaining the wealth we need:

“He who works his land will have abundant food,

but the one who chases fantasies will have his fill of poverty.” (28:19)

This of course chimes with a common message that teachers give children today – work hard at school, get the right qualifications and you will end up in a higher paid job. Waste your time playing computer games , smoking weed or scrolling through social media, you’ll fail your exams and end up in a dead end job paying minimum wage.

Proverbs is deeply practical. Work hard and you’ll be better off.

Riches come to the righteous:

However, Proverbs also suggests that it is not just working hard, but living a good life that will ultimately bring wealth and help avoid poverty:

“The righteous eat to their hearts’ content,

but the stomach of the wicked goes hungry.” (13:25)

Certainly, there is an obvious truth in this. Often following wicked ways will lead to poverty. If you commit a crime, you can end up with a  criminal record and it will be harder to get a well-paid job. Have an affair and your marriage will fall apart and you will find yourself having to support both your family’s and your own accommodation, stretching your finances to the limit. Lie as a sales person and you may build up a reputation for being untrustworthy and no-one will buy from you. In myriad ways this Proverb proves true.

Proverbs then teaches that it is good to have a reasonable amount of wealth, that it comes with hard work and living the kind of way God calls you to live. These things are true, but they are not the whole truth, we need to hold these sayings in tension with the rest of Proverbs and the rest of the Bible.

There are occasions when very good people end up poor for no fault of their own, there are occasions when people work very hard, but still end up poor, because of the circumstances they find themselves in and sometimes too much wealth can be very bad for you!

These exceptions do not invalidate the truth the Proverbs we’ve looked at express any more than a 90 year old chain smoker invalidates the assertion that smoking is bad for your health – exceptionally someone who smokes will live to 90, but most people who smoke will die young!

So let’s look at some of the other things Proverbs says about wealth and riches.

Wealth is not the main thing:

Firstly, Proverbs is clear that being rich is not what really matters in life. 28:6 is one of  a number of ‘better…. Than…’ Proverbs:

“Better a poor man whose walk is blameless

than a rich man whose ways are perverse.” (28:6)

In a way it expresses what we saw in that example from Oliver James’s book. The poor taxi driver who lived a good life, was a lot happier than the New York stockbroker addicted to sex with teenagers.

In fact, a majority of the ‘better than’ proverbs deal with issues of wealth and poverty and commend poverty with righteousness, rather than riches with injustice. Let me read a few more to you:

“Better a little with the fear of the LORD

than great wealth with turmoil.

Better a meal of vegetables where there is love

than a fattened calf with hatred.” (15:16-17)

“Better a little with righteousness

than much gain with injustice.” (16:8; cf. 28:6)

“Better a dry crust with peace and quiet

than a house full of feasting, with strife.” (17:1)

“Better a poor man whose walk is blameless

than a fool whose lips are perverse.” (19:1)

“What a man desires is unfailing love;

better to be poor than a liar.” (19:22)

In other words there are many things that it is better to have than riches: fear of God, love at home, peace, a blameless and trustworthy character. We should seek these things above chasing after money.

As Jesus says,

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” (Matthew 6:33)

Wealth’s pursuit is anti-gospel, anti-God:

In fact, Proverbs is keen to show us that seeking after wealth or greed is often associated with the kinds of attitude and behaviour that the Bible condemns.

Putting it simply, greed is anti-gospel. Greed, the chasing after wealth is the opposite of the gospel which proclaims God’s generosity to us.

The other Proverbs we’ve looked at in chapter 28 seem to expand on some examples of the ‘crooked ways’ that can be associated with being rich.

  • Exploitation

“He who increases his wealth by interest,

gathers it for the one who is kind to the poor.” (28:8)

Other Proverbs warn that wealth gained in wicked ways will be lost to those who live good lives. Here the word for ‘kind’ is really the word for ‘grace’ or ‘generosity.’ A Christians we sing of God’s amazing grace to us, about Jesus who for our sakes became poor in order that we might become rich, who paid the ransom for our sins. We believe in a God of grace, we need to be a people of grace. In particular we should be marked by showing kindness and generosity to the poor.

John Wesley advised when it came to wealth:

“Earn all you can, save all you can, give away all you can.”

The more we seek to use our wealth for God’s purposes and especially to help the poor, then the more wealth God will entrust us with!

Yet, charging interest to the poor is the opposite of this. If someone needs to borrow money, because they are in desperate need, then taking advantage of that by lending them the money, then you are exploiting the poor rather than helping them.

This raises questions about whether we should want interest on our savings at all. Certainly, putting your money in a bank and earning interest is not necessarily or obviously exploiting the poor and is mostly perfectly acceptable. However, we should be concerned that the institutions we put our money in to gain interest are not making their money by exploiting the poor or lending money to those who cannot afford to pay it back.

  • Pride

“A rich man may be wise in his own eyes,

but a poor man who has discernment sees through him.” (28:11)

Another danger or wealth is that it induces pride in us. Again this is anti-gospel, because the gospel calls us to humility to accept that we need God’s help.

Yet gaining lots of wealth can leave people with the sense that they have achieved their own salvation, after all wealth comes with hard work, and that they are secure, because as we have seen wealth does provide a certain amount of security.

The poor, however, can often see through this. The rich may be better off and more successful than them, but they still need God and their wealth is no ultimate security. Indeed, some Proverbs emphasise that wealth can be very fleeting.

  • Bribery

“To show partiality is not good–

yet a man will do wrong for a piece of bread.” (28:21)

This Proverb is warning against taking bribes. When we allow ourselves to be influenced by gifts into making decisions or expressing things differently to how we otherwise would, then we are becoming corrupted by a desire for wealth over truth, riches over righteousness.

Jesus, however, gave up the riches of heaven to come and show and tell us the truth. In him is no corruption.

  • Covetousness

“A stingy man is eager to get rich

and is unaware that poverty awaits him.”  (28:22)

Both verses 20 and 22 talk about an unhealthy haste to become rich. This contrasts with the general encouragement to the long term aims of gaining wealth through hard work and good living that we spoke of earlier. It also tends to over-ride and ignore the fact that there are many things better than and more important than. It ends up putting money ahead of God. It sees wealth as the source of salvation, rather than Jesus. It is anti-gospel and deeply corrosive.

A desire to get rich quick can lead us into all kinds of wickedness and evil. As Paul warns in 1 Timothy:

“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.” (1 Timothy 6:10)

What is better, Poverty or riches? (30:7-9)

So what is better? Riches or Poverty? Yes, having some wealth has advantages and poverty can bring you ruin.

Yet, there are many things more important than wealth and a chasing after wealth can destroy your soul. So, which is better riches or poverty?

Perhaps the final answer is given in the verses we read from chapter 30. They are part of the sayings of Agur. We don’t know anything about Agur, but theses sayings tend to be a bit longer than the other Proverbs and the one we read like some of the others is couched as a prayer, unlike the rest of Proverbs:

“Two things I ask of you, O LORD; do not refuse me before I die:

Keep falsehood and lies far from me;

give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread.

Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you and say, `Who is the LORD?’

Or I may become poor and steal, and so dishonour the name of my God.”

He prays for two things. The commentators disagree about what the two things are, but I think the best thing is to take the two things and riches and poverty. So which does Agur pray for? He prays not to have either of them!!

Why? Because he sees both leading to temptations that will lead him away from God. Riches as we have seen already may lead to a sense of success and security that make him tempted to forget about his need for God!

Whilst poverty may make him so desperate that he’d be tempted to steal and so dishonour God.

In the end Agur’s prayer encapsulates the wisdom of Proverbs on wealth. We need enough money not to be poor, but any more may lead us away from God. So, we should ask for the in-between, the ‘daily bread.’

And of course, this is just what Jesus teaches us to pray for. Taking up Agur’s advice Jesus tells us in his prayer to pray not for riches or poverty, but our daily bread, just what we need to keep living a good life. This indeed is the wisest attitude to wealth!

Wisdom in relationships – Proverbs 27:5-18

God did not create us to live in isolation. In fact, we need to relate to one another in order to grow in our faith.

A version of the sermon preached at St. Luke’s on the same day.

As a church we have been thinking about how to live wise lives and have been using the book of proverbs to help us with this. Our theme today involves looking at wisdom in relationships.  

The question for us is, what does wisdom in our relationships look like? Who do we surround ourselves with? What friendships do we invest in? Are they relationships that build us up? Are they good for us? How do we choose?

There is a general theme in the verses read out from proverbs today that focus on the importance of building good relationships that help us grow and flourish, that help us to be wiser people, to be the people we have been created to be. That according to proverbs is how we can be wise in relationships.

And We’re going to use two verses to help us explore this.

 v 17 says: Iron sharpens iron, and one person sharpens the wits of another

The concept of “iron sharpening iron” means there is more than one piece of iron. It would be impossible for one bit of iron to become sharper without the presence of the other. Left isolated, both bits of iron would be dull and quite useless. 

It is the same with us. We were not created for isolation but for community and relationships. It’s from these relationships that we sharpen each other – help prepare each other for the ups and downs of life, smooth out the rough bumpy bits of our character, and help each other navigate life successfully.  

As Chrisitans, we believe we were created by God and that our ultimate relationship is with Jesus. A successful navigating of life is knowing His love for us, knowing that he died so that our sins and mistakes would be forgiven and we can enjoy eternal life with God. In knowing Jesus we become part of His family. This means we’re not made for isolation but made to belong to Jesus’ family. And with Christian friends in God’s family we are meant to be an encouragement to each other in journeys of faith.

There are several verses in the New Testament that encourage Christians to help build each other up. That we would become more like Jesus, helping each other develop the characteristics of Jesus’ spirit. Those of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. In this way as We help encourage each other to grow and flourish in faith we are sharpening each other.

In baptism we are welcomed into God’s family. As we welcome people that bring children to baptism we have a responsibility to build relationships with those families, welcoming them into our family of faith. Being there to offer wisdom and advice in teaching them about faith in and relationship with Jesus. In baptism God invites us on a lifelong journey together with all God’s people that you may explore the way of Jesus and grow in friendship with God, in love for all people and in serving others. iron sharpening iron. 

Jesus longs for each of us to live our fullest lives by knowing Him and following in his ways. If good relationships and friendships help us grow in that way, a wise action is to invest in good friendships. Good Friendships as we have seen are where the other person has our best interests at heart and wants to see us flourish in life and faith. And we want the same for them. These are the relationships to invest in. 

As I was reflecting on iron sharpening iron, I realised that Iron sharpening iron doesn’t happen with just one pass, it can be labour intensive – not that I have ever sharpened iron with iron but what I do know is that I have a lot of friends. I invest in my friendships. It takes time. I have a variety of friends and each helps sharpen me in different ways.  It is important to invest in good friendships but it does take time building these kinds of relationships. They might be different from down the pub kinds of friendships. Wisdom in relationships involves investing time in friendships that will help us grow in our walk with Jesus. 

V6 adds another dimension to choosing good relationships. This is what it says, ‘Well meant are the wounds a friend inflicts, but profuse are the kisses of an enemy.

This proverb says that having a good friend might involve them pointing out areas where we need to grow which might cause us wounds. They might point out something in our character or a mistake or sin that could cause us harm. It is saying that honesty from friends which is motivated by our own welfare is more beneficial for us than ‘friends’ who falsely flatter us, in fact these kinds of friends are really our enemies as they do not really want us to grow. These are relationships that maybe we need to be prepared to put down. Because proverbs is saying that If we are wise we would seek out friends who will correct us because they want us to live lives that don’t involve our harm, they don’t want us making the same mistakes over and over again, rather than friends that just say want we want to hear because they don’t want to lose our friendship.

This is not something that is very easy to do. Either in being the friend that points out something or in being the friend that hears this kind of correction. Because it can cause wounds and it must only be done with the right motive. Love. With our children if they stick their fingers in an electric socket we’re going to tell them again and again not to do it. We want to correct their behaviour because it will cause them harm. Good wise relationships involve mutual love and the desire for the other person to flourish and so can involve correction.

I have both been the friend who has challenged something out of a genuine love for my friend and a desire for her to grow in her relationship with God and been the person that has been corrected which involved leaving behind a friendship. When I was challenged to begin with it did hurt but actually I saw the wisdom in the correction and how the friendship I was leaving behind was not one that would build me up and build me up in my relationship with God.

Jesus is the ultimate friend to invest time in, it’s the ultimate relationship that we’ve been made for. So wisdom in our relationships involves choices that surround ourselves with people that want to see us flourish and grow and have an abundant life in Jesus. We want to invest time in the people who are going to sharpen us, be honest with us, and we want to be the same for them all motivated by love

St. George’s Art Exhibition, 2022

The Art Exhibition will be held in St. George’s Church form Wednesday 13th July to Sunday 24th July, between 11am and 5pm on weekdays and 12 noon and 5pm at the weekend. After a gap of two years, we look forward to welcoming you to the exhibition and admiring the work of the local talented artists.

Youth led evening service

Youth Initiative is our provision for young people connected to our churches in Ramsgate to grow in friendship and faith. As part of this for the past three terms they have led an evening service.

This term our youth led evening service on Sunday 17th July 6pm is being held at St Luke’s and is being supported by a visiting Mission Adventures outreach team from YWAM Holmsted Manor. They will be taking the lead, ably supported by the youth from YI. 

More information on Mission Adventures outreach teams and YWAM as an organisation can be found via this link, https://www.ywamholmsted.org/27/Mission-Adventures

The service on the 17th July is for all ages and is a more interactive and informal style of worship. It would be great to encourage our youth and the Mission adventures outreach team, joining together and worshipping our awesome God.

Thank You

This has been a special weekend for our curate Claire, who serves at St. George’s and St. Luke’s churches. She was ordained priest on Saturday 2nd July at Canterbury cathedral by Bishop Rose. She presided over her first communion at St Georges church this morning and enjoyed a picnic lunch with members of both churches at the St Luke’s vicarage.

Claire writes: I want to thank everyone for their prayers, support, cards, kind words, gifts and the fantastic bring and share picnic. It has been a fabulous weekend. It is a joy to serve in these churches and a real privilege to be part of this family of believers in Christ. Thank you all so much.

Picnic lunch with members of St George’s and St Luke’s to celebrate Claire’s ordination.
Wonderful spread – thank you

A Wise Tongue (Proverbs 26:4-7, 17-28)

A Wise Tongue (Proverbs 26:4-7, 17-28)

Is the internet a good thing or a bad thing? The internet is communication on supercharge, but just as face to face speech can be used for good or bad so can the internet. What we need is wisdom to speak for good in both face to face relationships and online. God’s wisdom in Proverbs can help us with this.

The sermon as preached at St. Luke’s on the same day.

Is the Internet Good or Bad?

Our world has changed dramatically and unpredictably over the last 30 years with the development of the internet or worldwide web. Suddenly, the sharing of  information and communication has been supercharged in a way we have never dreamed of.

But has this been a good thing? Is the internet a force for good or bad?

Tim Berners-Lee, created the World Wide Web over 30 years ago,

“While the web has created opportunity, given marginalised groups a voice and made our daily lives easier, it has also created opportunity for scammers, given a voice to those who spread hatred and made all kinds of crime easier to commit.”

Is the internet a force for good or bad? The answer is both! At its most fundamental level the internet provides new tools and means of communicating ideas. But what was true for communication dominated by networks connected by word of mouth is also true for communication supercharged by an electronic devices. Speech can be used for good or bad.

The Bible is very clear on this. For example James warns us of how destructive our speech can be:

“The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.” (James 3:6)

And yet, the good news of Jesus is also spread through speech:

“”How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!” (Romans 10:15; quoting Isaiah 52:7)

So how can we use speech for good and not evil. Whether it is on the internet or face to face, we need God’s wisdom. What the Bible has to teach about speech is just as relevant in the internet age as it was in the Iron age. Proverbs is full of Wisdom about how to speak. Its ancient wisdom of 3,000 years ago can give us wisdom for using the internet which is only 30 years old.

Wise and Foolish Speech (vs. 4-7)

So we come to Proverbs 26, which has a lot to say about how we speak or rather how we shouldn’t speak. Verses 1-12 of Proverbs 26 in particular focus not so much on wisdom, but folly and it is important that we understand the difference, before we apply that understanding to speech.

Wisdom and Folly, 2 key differences:

I think Proverbs presents two key differences between the wise and the foolish that we have seen over the last two weeks.

  1. Want to Live for God

Firstly, the wise are people who want to live for God and are eager to obey God in their everyday living, whereas a fool does not really care whether what he does is pleasing to God or not.

For example Proverbs says,

“A wise man fears the LORD and shuns evil,

but a fool is hotheaded and reckless.” (14:16)

  1.  
  2. Want to Learn

Secondly, the wise have a desire to learn, whereas fools already think they know it all. The wise have a humility that accepts that others and God may know better, whereas fools have a pride that thinks they already know everything. For example:

“The way of a fool seems right to him,

but a wise man listens to advice.” (12:15)

Notice, that growing in wisdom and being a disciple are closely aligned. A disciple is someone who wants to learn and in particular wants to learn how to live to please God in their everyday lives. This is the essence of what being a Christian is all about.

Secondly, notice that wisdom is not the same as intelligence and foolishness is not the same as being stupid. You can have a PhD, but not want to live for God or want to learn about how to live a better life, whilst you may struggle to read, but still want to live to please God and learn from others how best to do it. It is perfectly possible to be wise and illiterate and foolish and be a Professor!

A Wise Response to Fools?

But, if we are seeking to be wise, how should we respond to fools in conversations and discussions? If we are a disciple how should we talk with people who reject Christianity, but want to discuss it with us.

Proverbs 26:4,5 show us that there is not an easy answer! One tells us not to bother talking to them, the other tells us to talk to them. These two Proverbs seem to contradict each other. As perhaps, verse 7 implies, you need wisdom to apply Proverbs! As is also clear, you cannot simply take one Proverb as a guide to what to do without taking into account the wider wisdom teaching.

However, what these two Proverbs also show us is not so much a contradiction, but a dilemma when it comes to speaking with fools.

  • Don’t Answer Them

The first Proverb tells us not to answer a fool:

Do not answer a fool according to his folly,

or you will be like him yourself.” (26:4)

With the wider understanding of Proverbs about fools we can understand this. They don’t share your aim in life, to live for God, so why would they take your advice. Also, they think they know better than you, so again they are not going to listen to you. Both these points suggest not speaking to fools.

In Luke’s gospel, Jesus is brought before Herod. Herod questions him, but Jesus refuses to answer him. He remains silent. Jesus was following the wisdom of the Proverb, Herod had shown his disregard for God’s ways and killed the one chance he had to learn from God when he had had John the Baptist beheaded. Herod was a fool and Jesus did not answer him!

  • Do Answer Them

Yet, this is not always the wise way to respond. The second Proverb says:

“Answer a fool according to his folly,

or he will be wise in his own eyes.” (26:5)

This Proverb argues that it is precisely because fools think they know best that you should answer them in order to show them their folly and stop them being wise in their own eyes.

Jesus again illustrates this in many places in the Gospels. For example when the Sadducees approached him with a clever argument that they thought proved that there was no resurrection of the dead, Jesus showed them how their argument was based on wrong assumptions about both God and the resurrection of the dead. He wanted to stop them being wise in their own eyes.

  • Do we debate?

So how do we respond to fools, either online or in person.

Do we answer their questions or not waste our breath?

Each situation will be different. In particular, you need to decide is there any chance that this person will listen to the argument and consider it or are they just out to cause trouble?

Yes, we do need to argue the case for following Jesus, but we also need to be wise about when and with who we do it.

Let’s be real about the dilemma and pray for wisdom to make the right choice in our day to day lives.

Quench Quarrels

Debates are one thing, quarrels are another. Debates tend to be over basic issues of understanding, but quarrelling is about personal disagreements. They can lead to division within families, churches and groups that can be very destructive.

Indeed, the Proverbs in 26:17-22 use quite destructive language. This is where misuse of the tongue can be quite devastating and special care needs to be given.

In contrast, Jesus came as the Prince of Peace bringing reconciliation between us and God, by covering over our sin, through the great sacrifice of his death on the cross. He likewise teaches us to forgive others in response and so cover over sin and bring peace in our relationships with one another. So as Christians we are called to be peacemakers:

“Blessed are the peacemakers,

for they will be called sons of God.” (Matthew 5:9)

We are called not to cause quarrels, but quench quarrels. I want to point out 4 ways to help quench quarrels from the Proverbs in chapter 26 and a couple of others.

  1. Don’t Join In

Firstly, we are warned not to join in with quarrels not already ours:

“Like one who seizes a dog by the ears

is a passer-by who meddles in a quarrel not his own.” (26:17)

The image here is of two dogs fighting. If you try and pull one off the other by its ears, you will just end up enraging the dog more and probably be severely mauled yourself! It’s best to keep out of other people’s quarrels!

Jesus illustrates this. In Luke 12 a man comes to him who is quarrelling with his brother about an inheritance and asks Jesus to join on his side.

Jesus responded by refusing to get involved:

“Jesus replied, “Man, who appointed me a judge or an arbiter between you?”” (Luke 12:14)

Instead he tells the parable of the rich fool about the dangers of being greedy for money. He doesn’t engage with the issues of the quarrel or take sides, but he does promote the attitudes needed to help bring about peace.

  1. Don’t use Humour as a Smokescreen

Secondly, we must be careful not to use humour as a smokescreen for wrong speaking:

“Like a madman shooting firebrands or deadly arrows

is a man who deceives his neighbour

and says, “I was only joking!”” (26:18-19)

Here the issue seems to be that someone says something that is hurtful, deceitful or confusing, but then claims it was just a joke. Jokes are good. We start our staff meeting with jokes, but we need to be careful how we use comedy in our personal relationships. Too often jokes are used to put others down in our culture. But, whether it is funny or not demeaning others is not acceptable and can be quite destructive.

As Christians we need to avoid those kind of personally demeaning jokes, because they tend to cause hurt and resentment and stoke quarrels and broken relationships.

  1. Control your Anger

Thirdly, we need to control our anger. Like joking, carefully controlled anger can be appropriate and necessary, as Jesus shows us when he cleared the temple. Yet, when anger is a knee jerk response, it is usually quite harmful and can again cause greater disagreement and break down of relationship.

“A fool gives full vent to his anger,

but a wise man keeps himself under control.” (29:11)

The Bible teaches that God is slow to anger and if we are seeking to be wise or true disciples, then we must imitate God in this way. We must keep our anger under control.

  1. Stop Gossiping

Fourthly, the Proverbs here are very clear that gossip is something that fuels quarrels and division:

“Without wood a fire goes out;

without gossip a quarrel dies down.” (26:20)

In other words if we want to help bring peace and quench quarrels, then we need to stop gossiping and listening to gossip.

Gossip is one of those things that is so easy and so common. Yet, in reality it is something that is deeply anti-the Christian gospel.

Peter picking up on one of the Proverbs says,

“Above all, love each other deeply,

because love covers over a multitude of sins.” ( 1 Peter 4:8, cf. Proverbs 10:12)

Jesus died to cover over our sins, to expunge them from God’s memory and our conscience. That is the heart of the gospel. Gossip does the opposite. It increases the knowledge of another’s wrongdoing and so creates a deeper mistrust and anger between people.

We may think gossip is not too serious a sin, but the Proverbs here compare it with arson! What is more in Romans 1 it appears in a list of sin that includes murder!

If we are serious about being peace keepers, if we are serious about the gospel of Jesus, then we will be serious about cutting out gossip.

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Bonus material (not included in the sermon that was preached).

Treasure Truth

Quarrelling, joking, anger and gossip can all involve spreading truth, but usually a distorted or one-sided version of truth. As we move on to verses 23-28, we consider when speech deals in more deliberate deceit.

Here we need to remember that as Christians, just as we are to be peacemakers with the way we speak we are also to be concerned with what is truth and not lies.

After all John’s gospel in particular reminds us:

“The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.” (John 1:14)

Jesus brings us truth in every sense, but the enemy the devil is about deception and distortion of the truth. Also from John’s gospel, Jesus says:

“When [the devil] lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” (John 8:44)

So as Christians we need to be concerned with truth, not just in the big picture issues, but also in our day to day engagements.

  1. See through the disguise

Yet, we also need to be aware that the people we encounter or the internet posts we read may not have this same concern for truth. We need to be careful not to be naïve.

Verse 23, in particular makes this point about people:

“Like a coating of glaze over earthenware

are fervent lips with an evil heart.” (26:23)

In other words, just as a pot made of clay might be made to look like one made of silver, by coating it with a silver glaze, so some evil people may make themselves look good, by using kind speech.

Wisdom means being discerning and not being easily fooled. There are plenty of people that can make themselves seem kind, charming and wonderful on first meeting, but whose intentions are deeply troubling.

Several years ago, we had a 14 year old turn up to our youth group. He had an incredibly charismatic personality and lots of the young people were soon deeply enamoured with him within the first week. Two weeks later, we discovered that he was a deeply predatory paedophile, who had been put in social care locally.

Whilst we do not want to assume the worst of everyone we meet, neither should we allow ourselves to be charmed in a way that means we don’t take the kind of precautions and safeguards we always should.

As Jesus says,

“I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves.” (Matthew 10:16)

This is one of the reasons it is important that as many of our volunteers as possible undergo the safeguarding training that is being promoted at the moment.

  1. See through flattery

One form of charm that is particularly seducing is flattery:

“A lying tongue hates those it hurts,

and a flattering mouth works ruin.” (26:28)

We all like to be praised and our good points pointed out, because it boosts our ego and pride. Yet, we need to be careful that people do not use flattery to make us lower our guard to their evil intentions.

Again the New Testament is very aware of this as an issue. Paul writes in Romans:

“I urge you, brothers and sisters, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them. For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery they deceive the minds of naive people.” (Romans 16:17-18)

Watch out especially when people are telling you how wonderful you are!

  1. Seek to be truthful

But as well as being on the watch for these subtle forms of deception in others, we also need to watch ourselves, that we are not acting in similar ways, that we are people of truth not distorters of truth or liars.

In the context, I think verse 27 is a warning, that deception will eventually rebound on the deceiver:

“If a man digs a pit, he will fall into it;

if a man rolls a stone, it will roll back on him.” (26:27)

Interestingly this is often the plot of many sitcoms. One of the characters tells a lie, then we watch them as their deception leads them into more and more trouble. It can be highly amusing to watch!

But, as Christians, our ultimate motive, is that we know that even though some people will get away with lies and deceit in this world, they will have to answer to the one who is the Truth and judge of all. Eventually, they will fall into their own pit!

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A Wise Tongue?

Whether we are communicating through the age old networks of face to face interactions with others or over the ultra-modern internet age, wisdom in the use of our speech is so important, perhaps even more important than ever.

The Internet can enable distortions of truth to be spread on an industrial scale. After all Putin has charmed and flattered the Russian people into supporting him and his wicked war in Ukraine, enabled by the power of modern communications. Through the spreading of false rumours and distortions over the internet, Trump helped to fuel the violent attack on the capital in the USA.

As Christians we need to be wise to these wicked techniques and seek to be those who quench quarrels and treasure truth, seeking God’s wisdom and guidance about when to challenge and when to stay quiet.